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SEASON 1. FEBRUARY 2019-APRIL 2019

• Episode 1: “Oh, I totally understand.”

• Episode 2: “Goal Nine Yards”

• Episode 3: “Permission to come aboard”

• Episode 4: “Whatever you want is fine”

• Episode 5: “Tough Love, part 1: Shame and Scare Tactics” Best of the Season!

• Episode 6: “Tough Love, part 2: Cutting people out or off”

• Episode 7: “Tough Love, part 3: Ultimatums”

• Episode 8: “Tough Love, part 4: Reality Checks”

• Episode 9: “Sorry, not sorry” Best of the Season!

• Episode 10: “Complicated Compliments

SEASON 2. OCTOBER 2019-DECEMBER 2019

• Episode 11: “Laughter is the best medicine?”

• Episode 12: “Ill-Advised”

• Episode 13: White lies Best of the Season!

• Episode 14: Compassion Fatigue

• Episode 15: Microaggressions

• Episode 16: “Mr. Brightside: A Lesson in Toxic Positivity” Best of the Season!

• Episode 17: Rewind to Season 1

• Episode 18: “Time is on your side”

• Episode 19: Gift giving gone wrong, part 1

• Episode 20: Gift giving gone wrong, part 2

SEASON 3. FEBRUARY 2020-APRIL 2020

• Episode 21: A critical look at grit

• Episode 22: Conversational Narcissism Best of the Season!

• Episode 23: Only Trying to Help…myself?

• Episode 24: Empathy, part 1: A Definition

• Episode 25: Empathy, part 2: The Skill

• Episode 26: Empathy, part 3: The Challenge

• Episode 27: Empathy, part 4: Getting Better

• Episode 28: Good Grief Best of the Season!

• Episode 29: Circling Back, 2nd Edition

• Episode 30: Tech Support

SEASON 4. OCTOBER 2020-DECEMBER 2020

• Episode 31: What has happened to us?

• Episode 32: Hippie Shit (Coping Skills for a Busy World) Best of the Season!

• Episode 33: Control Freaky (Guest: Meredith Force Cozzarelli)

• Episode 34: “Comedy and Tragedy” (Guest: Lisa Sharon)

• Episode 35: “In Sickness & in Health” (Guests: Kavita Srivastava Jackson & Ashley Pyne) Best of the Season!

• Episode 36: “Come on, get happy” (Guest: Dr. Scott Glassman)

• Episode 37: “Game on!” (Guest Jamie Sara Flecknoe)

• Episode 38: “Annual Holiday Gift Guide 2020”

• Episode 39: “It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like Boundaries”

• Episode 40: “Hope is a thing with feathers” (Season Finale)

SEASON 5. FEBRUARY 2021-APRIL 2021

• Episode 41: Creatures of Habit

• Episode 42: Helping a Friend Through Unemployment

• Episode 43: Active Ingredients, Part 1

• Episode 44: Active Ingredients, Part 2

• Episode 45: Volun-TOLD (Guest: Julie Gehring)

• Episode 46: AdvICE AdvICE Baby (Guest: Melanie Gibbons) Best of the Season!

• Episode 47: No Regrets (Guest: Dr. James Anderson)

• Episode 48: Trust the Process (Guest: Melanie Gibbons) Best of the Season!

• Episode 49: Just a Number?

• Episode 50: Only Trying to ASK FOR Help

SEASON 6. OCTOBER 2021-DECEMBER 2021

• Episode 51: Only Trying to ASK FOR Help, part 2

• Episode 52: Power of Compassion (Guest: Stan Steindl) Best of the Season!

• Episode 53: Talking with Teens (Guest: Jennifer Ollis Blomqvist)

• Episode 54: Good Grief, part 2 (Guest: Elizabeth McElroy)

• Episode 55: Laugh-firmations with Mallori DeSalle, Therapeutic Humorist

• Episode 56: Supporting a Friend in Recovery (Guest: Ro Munoz)

• Episode 57: Understanding Addiction (Guest: Betsy Byler)

• Episode 58: Holiday Gift Giving

• Episode 59: Spread the Love

• Episode 60: Season Finale

SEASON 7. FEBRUARY 2022-APRIL 2022

• Episode 61: Sunshine and Roses

• Episode 62. Substance Abuse, Part 2

• Episode 63. Only Trying to Help My Toddler (Claire Lane)

• Episode 64. Only Trying to Help My Teenager (Mallori DeSalle, Scott Kerby, Jen Ollis Blomqvist) Best of the Season!

• Episode 65. Only Trying to Help My Young Adult (Judith Carpenter and Peter Rives)

• Episode 66. Only Trying to Help My Spouse (Felicia and Wayne Penn) Best of the Season!

• Episode 67. Helping a Friend with Autism

• Episode 68. When You’re Not the Right Person to Help (Guest: Lisa Sharon) Best of the Season!

• Episode 69. The Benefit of the Doubt

• Episode 70. Helping Someone who Refuses Help

SEASON 8. OCTOBER 2022-DECEMBER 2022

• Episode 71. Be Cool, Not Cold (Guest: Mats Hogmark)

• Episode 72: We can LET PEOPLE do hard things (Guest: Melanie Gibbons) Best of the Season!

• Episode 73. Helping people with anxiety, part 1 (Guest: Kendelle Bond) Best of the Season!

• Episode 74. Helping people with anxiety, part 2

• Episode 75. There are no emergencies (Guest: Elizabeth McElroy)

• Episode 76. The Power of Identity (Guest: Steven Burkitt)

• Episode 77. Gentle Holidays (Guest: Leslie Ballway)

• Episode 78. Conflict Management

• Episode 79. An Exercise in Empathy

• Episode 80. The Relationship Bank Account

SEASON 9. FEBRUARY 2023-APRIL 2023

• Episode 81. Resentment Reset

• Episode 82. Drugs, Dos, and Don’ts (Guest: Hillary Bolter) Best of the Season!

• Episode 83. Sobriety Support (Guest: Ro Munoz)

• Episode 84. The Odd Couple (Guests: Mallori DeSalle and Lodge McCammon)

• Episode 85. Helping a friend through divorce (Guest: Ravi Maharajh) Best of the Season!

• Episode 86. You know what they say about assumptions (Guest: Jenn Ollis Blomqvist)

• Episode 87. Helping Someone Who Has Dementia (Guest: Lindsey Garnel)

• Episode 88. Being Savy with Seniors (Guest: Elizabeth McElroy) Best of the Season!

• Episode 89. Battle Buddies

• Episode 90. Season Finale

SEASON 10. OCTOBER 2023-DECEMBER 2023

• Episode 91. Fan mail

• Episode 92. Guests: Meg Rogers and Elizabeth McElroy boundaries

• Episode 93. Guest: Marie Burgess Grieving the loss of a child Best of the Season!

• Episode 94. Guest: Michelle Drapkin Self-help

• Episode 95. Guest: Randi Rubin Advocating for your children Best of the Season!

• Episode 96. Guest: Marie Cornejo Helping a Friend with Chronic Pain

• Episode 98. Guest: Marie Burgess Can’t Help Right Now Best of the Season!

• Episode 99. Guest: Mats Hogmark Conversations about conversations

• Episode 100. Guest: Leslie Ballway Themes of the Season

SEASON 11. FEBRUARY 2024-APRIL 20224

• Episode 101. Dr. Kate Watson The Single Friend

• Episode 102. Guests: Elizabeth McElroy and Meg Rogers Parent/ Child Relationships

• Episode 103. Guest: Christine Allen Co-Dependency Best of the Season!

• Episode 104. Guest: Lisa Simmons Barth Just Showing Up to Help

• Episode 105. Guest: Valerie Morel Helping a Friend Come Out, Part 1

• Episode 106. Guest: Michael McDevitt Kelly Helping a Friend Come Out, Part 2 Best of the Season!

• Episode 107. Guest: Fredrik Eliasson Helping Teams and Organizations Change

• Episode 108. Guest: Ravi Maharajh Shifting Family Roles

• Episode 109. Guest: Randi Rubin Co-Parenting with an Ex

SEASON 12. OCTOBER 2024-DECEMBER 2024

• Episode 111. Dr. Kate Watson talks about doing things that bring you joy

• Episode 112. Guest Ryan Eakin talks about helping a friend who’s been laid off from work

• Episode 113. Guest Ryan Eakin talks about helping a friend network

• Episode 114. Guests Meg Rogers and Elizabeth McElroy talk about the benefits of crying! Best of the Season!

• Episode 115. Guest Margo Bristow talks about helping people find hope

• Episode 116. Guest Laura Ford talks about being a helpful party guest. Best of the Season!

• Episode 117. Guest Ravi Maharajh talks about accepting people who are flawed

• Episode 118. Guest Alicia Clark talks about managing loved ones who body shame us

• Episode 119. Guest Laura Ford talks about gift giving

• Episode 120. Guest Mo McGee talks about helping unhoused people in the holiday season.

SEASON 13. FEBRUARY 2025-APRIL 2025

• Episode 121. Guests Meg Rogers and Elizabeth McElroy talk about accountability in our relationships

• Episode 122. Guest Ravi Maharajh joins the show to talk about performative helping

• Episode 123. Guest Jennifer Ollis Blomqvist helps Kate go “back to the basics” with a fun chat about listening skills

• Episode 124. Dr. Kate reads a letter from a listener who is curious about ambiguous loss

• Episode 125. Guest Scott Kerby joins the show to talk about the power of togetherness and group support

• Episode 126. Guest Margo Mullin joins us to talk about helping yourself in simple ways

• Episode 127. Guest Marie Delorme joins the show to talk about the connection between the mind and body

• Episode 128. Guest Marie Burgess talks about the power of nature to help people change and grow

• Episode 129. Guest Andrea Butler Strawther shares some info about helping people with severe mental illness

• Episode 130. Guest: Peter Rives talks about helping the world through acts of rebellion and protest.

SEASON 14. OCTOBER 2025- JULY 2026

• Episode 131. Guest: Reyna Puentes talks about the urge to give advice.

• Episode 132. Guest: Leslie Ballway talks about asking permission before we offer suggestions to people

• Episode 133. Guest: Nicole Snell talks about the well-meaning messages we receive about staying “safe” in the world

• Episode 134. Guest: Melanie Gibbons talks about the ways that couples sometimes try to help each other in well-meaning (but in effective) ways

• Episode 135. Guest: Jon Sherman speaks about the power of storytelling to be helpful to others.

• Episode 136. Guest: Hillary Logan speaks about our tendency to misinterpret other people’s problems as emergencies.

• Episode 137. Guest: Neal Regino TO BE RELEASED APRIL 29th

• Episode 138. Guest: Ravi Maharajh TO BE RELEASED MAY 27th

• Episode 139. Guest: Laurie Dimond. TO BE RELEASED JUNE 24th

• Episode 140. Guest: John Bensink. TO BE RELEASED JULY 29th

SEASON 15. OCTOBER 2026- JULY 2027

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